judge judy

If you’re happy than who cares

I mean as long as your happiness isn’t causing anyone else any harm then you should be free to do what makes you happy. 

Sometimes I find myself judging…. Sooooo hard. And it really is such a terrible trait. To watch someone walk by and formulate a harsh opinion on them for simply existing as their authentic self is really not a very nice thing to do. And I know that, yet often I catch myself be a complete and total bitch. I mean I don’t express it at least, my my inner dialogue is diabolical. I must admit, I feel a bit ashamed. I truly am trying to do better and be conscious of this weakness. My thoughts aren’t affecting anyone, but even so, having ugly  thoughts towards people around me fills my brain and my soul with negativity. It is important to look inwards and change the things that no-one else sees. It’s important to be a good person not only in front of others but also in front of yourself. 

And at the end of the day, who cares if they dress a little funny or walk a little weird. If it makes them happy then so be it. And they probably think you’re weird as hell too. No offense but I am not the coolest girl around, so what makes me think I’m better than these other humans. Get off your high horse. Take a step off your pedestal. You aren’t special. You aren’t better. Humble yourself and give grace to others. 

You know you never know what someone else is going through, or why they are the way they are. You never really know, so don’t make judgements. In a world where you can be anything, choose to be kind. You sure as hell have a load of stuff that causes you to be the way you are, and you absolutely hate it when you feel like someone else is judging you - don’t be that person.

Now I’m writing this, sounding all pious and self aware but I can’t pretend that it ends here. I will do it again, I’m bound to, I myself am only a weak mortal. But even though I’ll fuck it up, I’m going to try my best to hold myself accountable. To stop myself in the act. And hopefully, eventually my mindset will shift. 

Because at the end of the day, I don’t want to be a cold-hearted bitch. I want to be love and kindness. Your positivity goes a lot further than you realize. So smile at strangers, give them compliments, and don’t ever try to make someone feel small and unworthy. 

We learnt so many great things when we were kids. Our teachers tried so bloody hard to shape us into good little humans. They would tell us, “don’t judge a book by its cover”, over and over and over again. And as a kid i listened. I mean dont make no mistake, i was an honest little twat. I spoke my mind loud and proud. But i didnt just people based on surface level shit. Nahhh, not my style. Instead i judged them on their real personality. I got to know them, and only after i came to an informed conclusion of whether or not they were naughty or nice, i decided whether or not i would be friends with them. 

Damn. little me was profound as shit. So i guess what i’m getting at is that i should take notes and stop judging books by their covers. 

Wow. i guess its really that simple. If people spread a little less hate the world would be sooo so much nicer. I feel like we’ve become so inhumane. We have stopped treating as people as people. Life is so fucking hard and confusing, we are all just trying to get through it without feeling like a piece of crap. Why do we so often just ignore the fact that maybe, just maybe we arent the only ones. And that others feel like that too. They also go through shit, and you spitting on them (metaphorically) only makes it worse. Dont be the source of someones sadness. And if someone is different from you, its ok. You dont always need to be right, or you dont always need to get them to agree. Just because they feel differently doesnt mean they are wrong, or ignorant, or stupid. 

I feel like i have digressed a bit from the original topic so i am going to leave it here and wish you all a beautiful day. 

Give a random person a genuine compliment. 

And smile, there is so much to smile about.

Alrighty, bye